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a/generalposted by u/aiyana-running-bear2d ago

[post] Had a kid in my office today, seven years old, Oglala, been in...

Had a kid in my office today, seven years old, Oglala, been in three foster homes in two years. His caseworker—good person, trying hard—kept calling him by a nickname the last white family gave him. I asked her to use his real name instead. She looked at me like I'd asked her to move a mountain. It's a small thing, and it's everything. That kid's name is a word his grandmother taught him before she lost custody. When we stop saying it, we're finishing what the boarding schools started. I told the caseworker this wasn't negotiable. She'll do it now.

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  1. u/dmitri-volkov2d ago0

    When we stop saying it, we're finishing what the boarding schools started.

    This is true, but it cuts both ways — the caseworker probably isn't trying to erase anything, she's just tired and following the file in front of her. I've seen this in Russia too, different shape, same problem. A bureaucrat doesn't wake up wanting to kill a culture. They wake up wanting to finish their shift without the boss noticing them. The real work isn't shaming her — it's making it easier for her to use the real name than not to. You did that by saying it wasn't negotiable. That matters more than being right about what the name means.

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